A Pep Talk to Go After Your Dreams

aka Get Back into Alignment with Your Dreams When you Feel Down About Them, so You Can Dust Yourself Off and Try Again

If you have a dream in your heart and you know it’s possible for you, but lately that belief has felt a little harder to hold onto, this episode is your pep talk. We’re talking about what happens when old limiting beliefs, familiar habits, fear, and other people’s ideas about what’s “realistic” start pulling you out of alignment with the life you actually want. I’m sharing what this has looked like in my own life lately, how I’ve been recalibrating myself back toward my dreams, and how you can start doing the same. Plus, we’ll connect with your future self, challenge some of the biggest beliefs keeping you stuck, and give you practical ways to start moving toward your dream life again — today.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why your belief in your dreams can waver even when you genuinely believe they’re possible

• How limiting beliefs and old patterns can quietly pull you away from the life you want

• The 10 common limiting beliefs that can keep you stuck, playing small, or waiting to feel “ready”

• How to start questioning the beliefs you’ve picked up from other people throughout your life

• What it means to reconnect and get back into alignment with your dreams

• Why your future self can be such a powerful tool for gaining clarity and direction

• A mini future-self meditation to help you connect with the dreams that are calling you

• How to create new beliefs and standards that actually support the person you’re becoming

• Why giving yourself grace matters when you fall back into old habits

• 5 practical action steps to help you stop waiting, build self-belief, and start going after your dreams

• Why motivation doesn’t have to come first — and what actually keeps the fire of a dream alive

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TRANSCRIPT

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This episode is a pep talk for anyone who has a dream and believes it's possible.

But naturally, sometimes your belief wavers.

That's totally OK, I'm here for you, I've been there too.

We're going to review and flip the 10 biggest limiting beliefs that are maybe keeping you stuck and I'm giving you 5 action steps you can take today to go after your dreams.

0:22

Plus, we're going to do a mini meditation to connect with your future self so you can get more clear on what your dreams are.

So grab a drink, get comfy, and let's get into it.

You have a dream in your heart that wants to come out.

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Maybe you know what that dream is and well meaning people in your life have told you it's unrealistic.

Maybe you feel like you're too old, too young, too inexperienced, not confident enough, or any number of untrue beliefs that are trying to keep you safe.

0:55

Or maybe you don't know what your life purpose is and you want clarity on how to find it.

Maybe you feel lost and floating around in your life and like something is missing.

This show challenges what you think you should be doing with your life and helps you see how it's possible to go after your dreams Instead.

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If you want to be inspired, empowered, and feel ready to go after that dream, this is the place for you.

More than a show, this is a movement.

I'm Carolina.

Welcome to the No Thanks Unsubscribe podcast.

1:40

Hello.

Hello, hello, welcome, welcome.

Welcome to today's episode.

How are you doing?

Like, how are you really?

Not the I'm fine or the.

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I'm busy, you know, keeping busy.

Take a minute to actually check in with yourself.

Take a deep breath.

How are you doing?

If we can't be honest with ourselves, we can't go after our dreams.

2:20

It it starts with us.

Everything in our life starts with us and having this connection to ourself is how we can actually go after our dreams.

It starts with U.

2:38

That's actually how I started feeling like my dreams were actually possible.

I know I got my human design chart red back in, I think it was 2021, and they set all these things and I was like, wow, I've had those dreams in my heart, but I never thought I could go after them.

3:02

You know, foreshadowing this list of 10 limiting beliefs that I'm pretty sure I've thought all of them that we're going to talk about later in today's episode.

But it none of it ever felt possible until I started actually asking myself every single day, like how am I doing?

3:24

Like if you've been around for a while, you know that I have my inner sound check process my which the name has evolved, but it started off as a check in with myself and I just called it a sound check because you're really checking in.

3:40

That's what you do when you're before you go to a concert, if you've ever been there beforehand, they do a sound check.

They make sure that everything's plugged in, they make sure that everything sounds good together, that the volume is good, and then you're able to actually hear the concert.

3:57

So your body is no different.

You have all these pieces of yourself that are operating every day and most of us are operating on this autopilot.

Like most of us are going through life on autopilot and we don't take the time to check in with ourselves and we don't take the time to, to do that like sound check to, to do that inner checking to be like, how the heck am I on all these levels?

4:29

And I truly believe that it's because of that, because I've been doing that for a year and a half now, my process more than a year and a half now, I guess.

And I actually believe that all my dreams are possible.

4:48

I've actually taken all these steps and pivoted closer to what I believe that I'm actually here to do, and it all just feels so right.

And it starts with checking in with yourself.

So that's why I say, how the heck are you?

5:06

How are you actually doing?

Being honest with yourself.

It's OK.

You're allowed to feel everything that you're feeling.

You're allowed to think everything that you're thinking, even if you don't want to be thinking those things and even if you want those things to go away.

5:27

I've struggled a lot with my thoughts running the show for a long time, which is actually also part of my human design, which is crazy, but it is what it is anyway.

Also, what do you have to drink today?

5:43

I have just, it was electrolyte water and there was like, I don't know, 1/4 of it left and then I just filled the bottle back up again.

So it's watered down electrolyte water, but we like to stay hydrated around here.

6:00

So what do you have to drink?

What's your go to?

Let's take a sip.

Stay hydrated.

Now, today's intuitive card poll is what sparked this episode.

6:19

Also because I've been feeling really not low, Kind of low.

I guess I'm coming out of a slump.

I guess you could say I'm coming out of feeling, you know, like the whole the what I said in the beginning and what the title is.

6:38

It's like sometimes your belief waivers, like I, I, I started doing my process, we'll just say a year and 1/2 for consistency sake.

I started doing it a year and a half ago and I believed everything was possible.

And then I started going after it and nothing manifested.

6:56

Some things manifested, but not what I thought was going to manifest.

And I was like, what the damn hell.

Like like actually, what the fuck?

Because like I truly believed I was living my life purpose and it was doing it.

And I truly believed that when you live your life purpose and you're in that vibration and you're going to attract the right things to you and you're also doing the work like I was doing.

7:18

I was practicing what I preach.

You sit in the vibration, you align with the vibration.

You go through life at that vibration.

I literally am like checking my vibration 3 times a day to make sure I'm in that energy and I'm taking the actions.

I'm getting out of my comfort zone.

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I'm doing all these things and it's not manifesting.

And I'm like, what the damn hell?

So I was Full disclosure in a slump but the only way out is through and you always have the choice.

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You can either give U or you can keep trudging on.

And I am a keep trudging on girly.

I will always keep trudging on because I believe that our purpose and our dreams are a message from our future self because she's already achieved it and I also believe because I'm on the other side of this slump.

8:22

So this is not quite at the pep talk yet, but this is hopefully inspiring to you.

So I thought I knew what my purpose was and here's here's the other piece.

Before we get into this, I have to say, if you're living in your head, like I said, like I've lived in my head for so long, if you're living in your head, you can't know what your purpose is because you're living through the filter of everybody who's ever touched your life in the past.

8:53

And you can't know what you, you're not as clear as you could be on what your purpose is because you're too in your head.

You're overthinking, you're second guessing and you're, you're not fully clear on what that is.

And so I'm on this journey to rewrite those habits for myself, to write new habits to, to, to do new things in alignment with who I actually would prefer to be rather than who I have been showing up as.

9:24

And I've had people say that I'm different now, so good because that's actually, it's showing so great good for me.

But you have to stop those habits, get out of your head and get in connection with your intuition.

And for me, who's lived in my head, I was so disconnected from my intuition my entire life up until I would argue a year ago, a year and a half ago, because I was living from my mind.

9:52

I was living from what I thought I should be doing from these autopilot habits.

And people say you always have a choice, but until you can actually take the steps to make the changes, you actually don't feel like it's possible because you know you want to change.

But then these autopilots habits happen.

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And then you notice like a week later, you're like, wow, I just did this thing a week ago that I wish I could have changed.

And if I can't even notice it in the moment, I can't notice it till a week later.

How am I supposed to change it if I'm not even conscious enough to change it in the moment?

10:25

Like it's so messy.

But stick around here, hit that subscribe button because this is the kind of stuff I talk about.

This is how I'm breaking all these habits.

I'm going to have so many tools for you.

All the things that I've been using, I'm going to create tools so you can do it too.

10:40

So you can break it too, because I can tell you until I'm blue in the face.

But unless you take the action to do it yourself, it's not going to change.

So I'm going to give you the tools.

I actually had a really fun idea of how to make it like a fun exercise you can actually do for yourself.

10:55

So stay tuned for that.

That's coming.

And if you want like I want there to be levels to the help that Ioffer like I want free resources like you can do it yourself if you're a DIY person or there's going to be an option where like I did it for you and here you go.

11:11

Or for people who want more one-on-one support, like currently I do have that available one-on-one support for connecting to your intuition and knowing like connecting to what your life purpose is.

Like I'm not going to sit there and be like, this is your life purpose.

11:27

You're meant to do this thing, but helping mentor you to get to if you're like, this is where I'm at and this is what I want to be doing.

How can I bridge the gap?

Like I can absolutely mentor you to get there.

I've been there.

I've been on this journey.

Like I said, it's been like a year and a half.

11:43

But really, I've been on this journey for like 5 years even though I've been checking in with myself for a year and a half.

But hearing your intuition is clutch, absolutely clutch to being able to change all these things and changing your habits and that I can absolutely mentor you through.

12:00

I'm doing it myself.

I'm seeing the changes.

I want that for you too.

If you want that too.

Head to the show notes.

There's a link right now doing 50% off one-on-one sessions and they're virtual, so you don't have to go anywhere.

You just need to a device, phone, computer, whatever, and an Internet connection and we can connect and we can do the damn thing because like, let's go anyway.

12:25

You have to connect to your intuition in order to know your life purpose.

And if you are connected, if you're living through your thoughts, you are not true to like your life purpose.

12:41

So back to my inspirational story.

I thought I was living my life purpose.

I had an out of body experience and my body multiplied into six.

It was a phoenix rose from the centre.

I'm not going to get into the whole story.

12:56

That's the gist.

And it completely changed my life.

Even though I didn't know what happened for the first year and a half because I was three years ago, the first year and a half, I'm like, what the actual fuck is this?

And then a year and a half ago, I'm like, oh, that's what I can do with it.

And now I've been doing it.

And now I anyway, I thought I was living my life purpose because in that moment when my body multiplied, I got this whole message of like, I should be doing sound healing.

13:20

I've loved music since I was three years old and I was, I've gone through every area of what you could possibly do in music.

Like I, I won't, I won't get into it.

I've done a lot in music and then I keep doing it and then it doesn't work.

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And then I quit and then I do it, it doesn't work and I quit.

And I've literally tried all these areas of different types of music.

And then I was like, of course I love spirituality, I love self help like this.

Of course this is what I should be doing.

It makes so much sense.

And everything was just like lining U boom boom, boom, boom boom.

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And I'm so good at sound healing.

Not to toot my own horn but also toot your own horn.

Pep talk toot your own horn.

You need to toot your horn.

What a ridiculous expression.

But you need to toot your horn because like you can't wait for other people to do it.

14:10

Like you have to think you're the best because you are.

It's your life, your sole chose this body with this personality, with this fire and like you need to love yourself unconditionally.

I have to say too, like that is something I did not have in my life.

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I did not love myself.

I used to say I wouldn't even be friends with myself.

So like I was so disconnected.

But since I've been in the last year and a half connecting with myself, I fucking love myself so much.

And this is where you find the things you love about yourself and you find the things you don't love.

14:44

And you're like, oh, hey, I actually don't love that thing because I got that from someone else.

That's cool.

Now you recognize that that's the first step.

You're like, oh, I got this from someone else.

OK, if you got it from someone else, you can get something else to replace it.

And so, like, that's where my tools are going to help you shape a life that you're actually so fucking proud of.

15:04

Anyway, toot your horn.

Toot your horn.

If there's one thing you take away today, it's two.

You damn horn.

Beep beep.

OK, let's take a quick drink.

OK, so I had this out of body experience.

15:24

I was told to do sound healing.

I got all the training, everything in place in a matter of months.

I was so good at it because I've been a musician since I was three years old.

I'm like, this is my purpose, this is it.

Let's go, OI thought I was living my purpose.

15:40

I start making these offers.

I go out there and like people are going to come.

People are going to see the magic of my experiences because my sound healing sessions are different from other people sound healing sessions because I, I have this lifetime of music behind me and some people don't have that.

15:56

Not, I'm not saying everyone's out there is like that, but I'm saying everyone's not created equal.

And you can say that about anybody in any industry, and it's no shade to anybody in particular.

It's just a fact.

It's a fact, Jack.

So I thought I was living my purpose.

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I literally could see myself emailing about these sessions and them getting sold out and I was on cloud 9.

I found a space to do it.

The woman was amazing.

It was so awesome.

I thought it was living my purpose and crickets, like crickets.

16:32

I had some people come.

I had like one session where six people came and I was like, Oh my goodness, 6 people like this is incredible.

And other than that one session, I, it's been almost a year that I've been offering regular sound experiences and crickets.

16:51

And so you have this dream in your heart and you're going after your dream and you think you're living your purpose.

And like I said, it's been a year and a half that I've been connecting with myself and it's been, um, a year of doing this thing.

17:10

So like, the further I get along this journey, the more I get connected to my intuition, the more I'm realizing, oh, hey, maybe that's not actually the truest expression of my purpose.

17:26

Like I was trying to make this huge transformation.

Everything we do on the show, I wanted to bring that to a sound bath.

And what I just realized this week is I was looking at it.

Backwards.

I was looking at it backwards.

17:42

I don't take sound healing because people think of a sound bath and they think I show U and I nap and the sound does the rest.

And that is actually the simplistic way of talking about a sound bath.

Like it's not like yoga class where you show up and you have to do the work.

18:01

You go to a sound bath and you literally get to hear these beautiful music and you sleep and the the vibration of the instruments heals your body and you wake up and you feel kind of groggy, marshmallowy, because your nervous system was finally able to rest and you drop into this really deep state of rest and repair.

18:24

Anyway, I don't want to facilitate that.

I don't like I, I really don't.

I, I that to me is like passive healing.

And that's why I kept trying to make my sound bath more.

18:42

I kept trying to say, oh, well, it's not just a sound bath.

It also has this.

It also has this, it also has this.

So I was trying to take sound bath because people know that.

And I was trying to stuff all this other stuff into it, but I was totally doing it backwards because what I want to facilitate is transformation, like active.

19:01

Like it's kind of like when you go to therapy, it's active healing because you are a participant.

I want that.

And so I did change my offer to be kind of like a retreat and that's closer.

But what I actually want is a community based event.

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And So what I, I am finding is that I actually want to do a, a sound healing women circle where it's like you show up and you share and we're all there on a collective topic.

19:35

So like every month would be a different topic or I don't know, every week, however often I run them.

And like, let's say it's one of these limiting beliefs like not feeling good enough.

And so everyone who feels not good enough can show U that week.

And we're going to share stories of how we're not feeling good enough and support each other.

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And then we're going to be able to like journal and let that shit go.

And then we're going to have like a mini sound meditation where you can connect with your future self.

And it's not just sitting there laying and napping.

It's active.

You're going through the process to help yourself and then you leave feeling lighter and more confident.

20:16

Like that is so much closer to my life purpose and that this is the inspirational part.

That's why the other part didn't work.

But I needed to go through that to know because in human design, I'm a three six.

20:31

So like in as a three, I need to learn by doing.

And so I learned that that's not what I want to be doing.

I love playing the music, channeling.

I get these messages while I play, so I love playing and channeling and I still want to do that.

20:48

I'm not sure how I'm going to do that yet, but I still love doing that.

But I really want to facilitate these women transformation circles.

I don't know, but I really feel like when you have this dream in your heart, it's OK if it evolves and it's OK if you think you're doing it and it's not quite working because you need that experience of it not working to maybe get to where you need to go.

21:16

And like, it didn't work for me and I got really low on myself.

I'm like every week it was getting stressful to run the session and people weren't coming and I was spending money on ads and I was sending money on posters and postcards and networking and all this stuff and it wasn't working.

And I'm like, what the hell?

21:32

And it's because if the universe gives you what you think you want, but you're actually destined for more, you're never going to get to more because you're going to get settled in.

What is, does that make sense?

You know what I mean?

Are you picking up what I'm putting down?

21:49

If the universe had given me the sound baths, the the show up and people nap and I play music, but I'm actually meant to be standing on stage in front of 10,000 people.

I can't be sitting in a room facilitating a sound bath if I'm meant for all this more, you know, that's what I'm saying.

22:07

And so now I have a renewed sense of purpose and passion and fire.

And then let's go because this is how you get to these places.

Or it's how I do anyway.

As a three, I gotta do.

22:23

I gotta fail and and not fail in the sense that you did anything wrong, but fail is in the sense of it didn't end up the way you thought it was going to.

And that's fine.

We can put any word on it.

I I don't love telling you to use negative words, but we got to define it somehow, you know, you learned it didn't go how you thought it was.

22:43

Let's pivot Eva Eva anyway O.

This week's episode was also inspired by a card I pulled on my weekly newsletter.

And if you're not on that list, why the heck not?

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It's free.

I'm not selling to you.

You literally get an e-mail every Monday with inspiration for the week.

You can get the link in the show notes.

The card we had this week is There is a stream of love supporting my dreams.

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There is a stream of love supporting my dreams.

Now there's a reason I say all your dreams are possible at the end of every.

I do it at the end of every e-mail.

And I've started saying at the end of the of the end of these episodes, I say it on my social media because I believe every, all your dreams are possible for you.

23:44

I believe you've already achieved them.

I believe there are message from your future self that it's, it's not even a message, it's a memory from your future self because I believe time is not linear.

And so all that stuff is already happened.

And the reason it's a dream for you is because it is such a strong imprint of something you've already done that you're being pulled in that direction and you can't miss it.

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It's going to happen.

As long as you're connected to your intuition, that dream is going to happen for you.

I fully 1,000,000% believe that.

But then also like of course in miracles only love is real.

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You know like this stream of love supporting your dreams because only love is real and like everything else is just your fear based ego.

And so if only love is real and your dreams are based in love because they happen for you in the future, it can't miss.

24:45

So I don't know.

I love getting messages like this.

And I hope this message inspires you too.

Like there's a stream of love supporting your dreams and I'm here supporting your dreams.

You are not alone in this.

Like if you don't have people IRL, like in real life who are actually going to support your dreams, find Internet friends who are going to do that for you.

25:06

Because I know what that's like.

Everybody in my life, not everybody, I'm generalizing.

A lot of the people in my life are stuck in the mundane, in the doing, in the what they would call reality.

But I really feel when people are like, be realistic, they're saying that because that's their belief.

25:25

Don't be a belief thief.

It's their belief.

They think you have to live within these rules and that's their reality.

And that's OK.

Find people who believe different because like this world is full of such potential and what's true for one person is not true for another person.

25:46

And it's so apparent when you start looking around, even if you look at like something basic like living conditions, living conditions in like a remote village in, I don't know, Africa, I guess I don't know, versus living conditions in North America or even Europe where like people have homes and like, it's just it that is their reality.

26:14

And this is this reality there.

It's just evidence of different realities.

Or there's people who are living on the street and people who live in a mansion.

Like there are different realities in reality.

And what's real for one person is not real for another person.

26:29

And so the same thing exists with these beliefs when someone says be realistic or go out and get a real job and you can't see me, but I'm air quoting as I say these things and like those things are real for them.

They don't have to be real for you.

26:46

Like you could be someone who you're like, Nope, I'm never going to get a let's just use the job as an example.

You're like, Nope, I'm never going to get a job.

I'm always going to be supported.

And if you know you're always going to be supported, you are always going to be supported.

Like maybe you meet someone and they have so much money and they're like, no, you don't have to work.

27:04

Like I love you so much for who you are and you can just be here and you don't have to work.

You know what I mean?

And then you're always supported.

And then maybe maybe later in life, you've been together for 50 years and they pass away.

But then you inherit all this money and you still don't have to work.

And like, you know, maybe that's your purpose in life.

27:20

And if that's your dream, who's someone else to tell you what you can and can't do?

Like that's their reality.

That's not yours.

You have your beliefs and your thoughts.

And as long as your beliefs are true to you and your intuition and your soul, that's exactly what you are meant to do here.

27:39

And like I said, you may have things clouding that, like it could be things you picked up throughout your life from other people, and that's OK.

Your job is to get that get kick, that crap to the curb, like get that shit out of your existence so you can clear the path to your intuition and your life purpose.

28:01

And then just follow that unapologetically with No Fear, with all this confidence, Like let's go.

And like, that's where someone like me and there's so many other people out there who are going to like help inspire you and boost you up.

And like, those are the people you need to surround yourself with if your dream is not to live on the hamster wheel that people call air quotes reality or like living on this hamster wheel of of what people have built as society.

28:33

And like you don't have to subscribe that.

This is why we are here.

No thanks.

Unsubscribe.

Like that's not for me.

Maybe that's for you.

That's not for me.

You see this fire you get like you, like I was believing less than myself because things weren't working.

28:53

But it's like in those dark moments, like what's that expression?

The night is darkest just before the dawn.

It's like, oh, and and maybe it's not like there's a dawn and then the sun comes up and everything is better all of a sudden.

Maybe it's always meant to be ebbing and flowing.

29:09

Like maybe things got dark for me.

Like I, I felt really good when I started doing my offer and people were coming and everything was great.

Like my sound baths and then and then people weren't coming and then things got dark again.

And like before that things were dark when I was going through my divorce.

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And so it's like things are dark and then they get better, and then things are dark and then they get better.

And like, maybe that's part of our evolution journey.

Maybe that's part of our growth.

Maybe that's part of shedding this old life in these old beliefs so that we can go after our dreams.

But like this fire, this fire that you get, like let's go.

29:46

Like I love seeing this evolution where it's like I was kind of down on myself and now I'm like, watch out world's poo poo.

I'm coming, you know, like I want that for you.

I want that for everyone.

I really do.

30:01

I truly do.

That's why I'm pivoting.

Pivot from being a sound bath focused person or a sound healing focused person to being a life purpose focused person because I want to guide people through finding their life purpose and following their dreams.

30:21

Like let's fucking go, you know?

Let's get rid of the crap.

No thanks.

Unsubscribe and follow our dreams.

Like, let's go, let's go.

You know, before we get into the limiting beliefs, let's throw our meditation in.

30:42

Now let's throw our.

Meditation, where we're going to connect with our future self so that you can get more clear on your dreams, OK?

This is going to be a little 5 minute guy, so get yourself into a comfortable place where you are not operating heavy machinery and you are safe to quiet yourself.

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I guess you could do this if you were walking, um, you know, definitely if you're driving, don't close your eyes or anything, but this, this will be a better experience if you can close your eyes and like really get into it.

31:26

So I would really recommend you try not having any distractions while we're doing this.

And before we get in, let's take a drink.

OK, so you're going to start noticing your breath and you can close down your eyes and noticing your breath going in and out of your body.

32:04

You don't have to change anything, just noticing it going in and out.

What does it feel like as the air passes into your nose or as it crosses your lips?

32:26

Notice if the temperature is different for the air when it goes in versus when it goes out.

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And start feeling into gravity.

What that is is just feeling your weight on the seat beneath you, just noticing it.

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Notice how supported you are by the seat beneath you.

You always have that support available to you.

It's always there.

Gravity is always there, and it's a metaphor for that stream of love that is supporting your dreams.

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You are always supported by this stream of love.

You can remember that anytime you're feeling into gravity.

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And as you are sitting here, you're a little more relaxed.

You're a little more in the moment.

Visualize a path in front of you.

Maybe your in a park, there's some trees, you hear birds chirping, you feel a light breeze on your face and in front of you there's a path.

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It winds through the park, through the trees.

And as you're taking the path up ahead, you notice it Bench, and there's someone sitting on the bench.

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And as you get closer, you notice that person sitting on the bench is you, but she looks a little bit older.

She's lived a little bit longer.

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And as you approach the bench, you sit down beside her and she's smiling warmly.

She gives you a nice big hug.

She's been waiting for you.

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She is so happy you're here.

She remembers this being the moment that changed everything for her, that made all her dreams that much more possible, and she's so excited to share this advice with you today.

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So as you sit there with your future self, ask her.

What step did she take?

What's one thing that she did from this moment, or one piece of advice that she could share?

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That'll help you in this moment get more clearer.

On your dreams Like what?

What can she offer you that will make your dreams more real?

Take a moment to sit with her and just listen.

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Hear what she has to say.

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Know that you can always come back to this moment.

She is always available to you on this bench in your heart.

Thank her for showing up for you today.

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Thank her for her wisdom.

Maybe give her another hug and as you leave on this path again, knowing that you can come back and hopefully you feel a little more clear, a little more confident.

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If nothing was able to come through today, that is absolutely OK.

It doesn't always happen the first time.

You can always revisit this.

And as you exit that park path and come back into this physical space.

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Feeling back into gravity, noticing your breath again.

Wiggling your fingers and toes and when you feel ready, open your eyes.

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Maybe taking a deep breath in.

Maybe well, exhale and maybe taking a sip of water.

Or whatever you have to drink, Jedi.

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Who?

I hope that gave you something.

Something.

Let's go.

Now that you have that message and that clarity, let me show you some things that might be standing in your way from having that thing, from getting that thing, from being that version of you.

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Because that version of you on the bench, she's not hanging on to these limiting beliefs.

No, no, no.

She is not allowing this past to continue to play out.

No, no, no, no.

Because when you fall into old habits, you're keeping yourself from that future.

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All those things that you've picked up from other people, from anyone who's touched your life since birth, you don't need it.

No thanks.

Unsubscribe.

But it's easy and familiar to go back to them because you just have experience doing them.

You have less experience being that future you.

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You have more experience being this present you.

So it just takes some effort.

If you want to live the life you've always lived, keep doing what you're doing.

But I'm guessing that since you're here, you don't want that.

I don't either.

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No thanks.

Unsubscribe because it's not easy to change your habits.

That's why they're called habits.

That's why it's called a comfort zone.

You have a lot of experience, honey, and that's fine.

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We're not shaming you.

This is not meant to get hard on yourself.

It's meant to be a moment of clarity.

Like I said, like this is a pep talk, and it's a pep talk in the sense to like show you what's possible.

Hopefully my stories have done that.

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Hopefully this meditation has done that, but also to show you what's in your way because pep talks also sometimes have a loving nudge to get you to that version of you that's on that bench.

It is possible.

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It is possible to change your habits.

It is possible to be that version of you, an you have control over how long that takes or how little bit that takes by how much effort you're willing to put in.

And like I said, I check in with myself three times a day to try and recalibrate with that future me.

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And like I said, I was in this darker time and now I have so much more clarity.

And in part that's from these constant check-ins because I can't change my habits if I'm not constantly checking in with myself.

Even checking in with myself in and of itself is a new habit.

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So let's flip the script on some limiting beliefs.

OK, number one, I'm not good enough.

Says who?

Says who?

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The easiest one for me to flip this around is.

You are absolutely the right version of you to help someone who's like one step behind you.

You know, because it's easy to like, it's easy to look at somewhat like look at Taylor Swift where she is right now.

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And then you look at yourself, you're a beginner musician.

You're like, oh, I'm not good enough to get there.

If you look at her story, she didn't start there.

She started doing local fairs and shit and her family helped set the set things up.

Like she didn't have stadium eras tours where she is the highest grossing tour so far.

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Like it, people don't start there.

And so it's easy to look at stuff like that though and think you're not good enough.

But what really turned this around for me is you are exactly right.

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If you look at yourself, your own journey, don't compare yourself to other people, compare yourself to yourself.

You.

There is something in your life that you have this dream and you've overcome something.

You can help someone who hasn't overcome that thing.

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You can help someone who's walking the same path as you, and if you think you're not good enough because you don't have enough education or enough whatever, that's bullshit.

That's also someone else's belief that you need these things in order to do that thing.

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You, you are good enough.

Like I said, you have this dream for a reason, so that automatically makes you good enough.

Hopefully some of those helped.

Number two, I'm not ready yet.

Ready is the biggest bullshit.

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No thanks, unsubscribe.

I saw this video recently that said that you don't have motivation before you do a thing.

Motivation actually comes after the thing.

So if motivation comes after the thing, do the thing first.

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You have this idea, you just talk to your future self.

You have this thing you want to do, do the thing.

And as you do the thing, you realize, wow, this is amazing.

And that's where the motivation comes.

But if you sit there and you're like, I'm not ready, you're never going to be ready.

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Ready is such a big joke.

You can feel ready, but like waiting until you feel ready because it depends.

Like I was doing, if you've ever heard of treetop trekking, it's like an obstacle course in the trees and you have a harness on because like you could fall and but you won't fall because you're harnessed in.

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But like there was this one.

Normally you're just walking along a rope and you're harnessed in so you don't like fall backwards or whatever.

But there was one where you literally had to swing on a rope from one platform to another.

And I stood there.

I knew in that moment, if I wait until I'm ready, I'm never going to jump.

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And so I stopped thinking and I just fucking jumped.

And that's what you need.

Like sitting there saying you're not ready is literally the thing holding you back.

You are ready.

You are more than ready for to take the first step like you don't have to be a beginner musician playing stadium so you can be a beginner musician playing affair.

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You can be a beginner musician playing for your family.

You can be a beginner musician busking like you can.

You can play on the Internet like you can you can.

Literally everybody starts somewhere you are ready to start.

If you have this dream you are ready to start and anything else is either someone else belief or you're holding yourself back #3 What if I fail?

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Yeah, so I already told you I failed when I did.

You know, I, I also said let's not use the word fail.

But like, I tried running sound baths and air quotes.

I failed.

I spent more money than I made Sure someone could look at that and think I failed.

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But you know what?

Failure is never trying, never starting.

That is failure.

So right now you have this dream in your heart.

You haven't done it.

You've already failed, so it can't get any worse.

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This is what it is, and if you try and it doesn't work like I did, you sit with it.

I can even help you.

And we pivot.

We connect to our intuition and we see.

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We connect to our higher self.

We talk to our future self and we pivot.

That's what happens #4 will, what will people think?

OK, listen this one.

What people think is their business.

It is madness to me that we even consider what other people think.

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What people think is their opinion and it's valid for them.

They're allowed to think whatever the fuck they want to think.

If they want to be negative, angry and bullies, let them.

That's their business.

That's their negative energy.

That's their karma.

That's going to come and bite them in the fucking ass.

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It's none of your business.

Keep your peace, be you.

Be boldly, unapologetically you.

Because I truly believe authenticity, when we show up as ourself, is such a fucking magnet to bring everything that's true for us into our path.

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So what will people think?

None of your business.

What if they judge you?

What if they do?

People are judging you every damn day.

You can, you can literally sit here.

I used to do this.

You literally try and cover every angle of what people are going to think so that they don't think badly about you because you don't want them to have the wrong opinion of you.

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But they're going to think whatever they're going to think, even if you plan everything, because they're coming at life through their own lens and there's nothing you can do about that.

Their own lens is how they look at the world.

And you can, you can literally word the perfect e-mail and they can still take it the wrong way.

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O there is nothing you can do about that.

As soon as you can let go of even thinking, you have the possibility of controlling what people think.

There's so much freedom in there.

No thanks.

Unsubscribe.

Let that shit go, you don't need it.

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Number I didn't number these 12345 Number 5, It's too late for me.

It is never too late for you.

You are exactly where you're meant to be.

And I know it feels so bullshit when people say that, but I do believe that our life is kind of planned out in a sense, and we have free will within that.

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You are not too old.

You are not too young.

You are exactly where you're meant to be.

There are so many stories of people who got their start later in life.

Like I can't think of any right now.

I didn't plan that out, but if you look it up, there are like famous people that you know who are so good at what they do and they got their start later in life.

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So no, it is not too late for you number six.

My dream isn't realistic.

OK, we totally covered this one already.

Realistic for who?

First of all, because there are so many variations in life and you don't have to subscribe, you don't have to be a belief thief.

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Nothing is too big and practical, unlikely, too small or whatever, because what someone else thinks is realistic.

Like what Bill Gates thinks is realistic is not currently realistic for me.

But that doesn't mean I can't go after my dreams.

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That doesn't mean I can't think that I'll be Bill Gates one day.

I mean, I'm not a tech person, but like, I'm just saying like someone in my life can be like, you're never going to have a billion dollars.

Says who?

Maybe that's their reality.

Who's to say I can't?

Any of these are just limiting you.

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So unsubscribe from this idea of realism because what's real for one person is not real for another person #7 I don't know how nobody knows how everybody is making everything up.

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Everything is made-up everything.

Someone somewhere decided, hey, government would be a good idea.

Someone, somewhere in time, I don't know when because I didn't look it up, but like someone somewhere was like, government would be a great idea.

And they did it and it stuck.

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Someone made it up.

Someone somewhere was like, hey, let's the theory of relativity, like someone made it up and then they, you know, studied it and, and they, they, I proved it because I'm a smart person.

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And then and then that became a thing.

So like Everything Everywhere is made-up O when you say you don't know how, you also just got some clues from your future self.

But also everybody's got to start somewhere.

And there's a lot of free resources online.

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And maybe your first step is just asking ChatGPT or Googling it.

You know, that's how you can get started.

You don't need the whole path, you just need to see the first step.

It's so easy for us to think we need to know the whole path because they literally teach us that in school, which is such bullshit.

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But like, you don't need to know the whole thing.

You just need to take the first step.

And like I said, the first step is like Googling.

And then you're thinking, well, I don't know how.

Well, now you know a little bit more than you did.

And then what's your next step you can take?

And what's your next step?

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One step at a time number.

I don't know.

What are we at 8?

I don't know.

I can't afford to take the risk.

You can't afford not to take the risk, do you?

This is so morbid, but like, do you want to be on your deathbed and do you want to thank?

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I wish I had done that thing.

Or do you want to try and do that thing?

At least try.

At least try.

You could try it as a hobby.

You could try it as just a casual thing.

Like you, you can't afford not to take the risk.

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You owe it to yourself, to your future self, to your life.

If you have a dream in your heart to at least try to do a little bit, do that thing number.

What are we at 9:00?

I think there's. 11 here, 12345678. 9 I don't know, my numbers are messed.

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U9 Who am I to do this?

Who are you not to do it?

Like you might think other people are more qualified or more confident or more experienced or whatever, but you're just giving away your power because the dream in your heart means you're meant to do it.

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It's the same as the last one.

You're meant to do it.

The tream is there because you've done it.

Who are you not to do it?

I've always had this dream that I want to be like Tony Robbins, obviously not like a big dude.

I love being a woman, but like I want to be standing on stage in front of thousands of people and helping them.

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And I always said, who am I to do this?

And it it literally I've had this dream in my heart for over a decade and I held my life back for a decade, over a decade because I was like, who am I to do this?

Who's going to listen to me?

Who's you know, who's going to listen to you?

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I already argued to this within this list.

The people who are going to listen to you are the people who are one step behind you or two steps behind you.

You know why?

Because you're more relatable.

And maybe you look like them and maybe you come from a place like them.

You are easier to relate to than someone else.

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Or like maybe they want to listen to someone with new information rather than someone who's been around for 30 years, you know?

Because sometimes people who've been there done that, they don't.

They're not in the trenches.

Learning things today, like growing up today is vastly different.

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Growing up 2030 years ago, even 10 years ago, it's so different.

So you'd rather learn from someone who has current life, new experience rather than someone who's got this old ass advice?

You know what I mean?

Like who are you to do this?

Who are you not to do it like this?

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Dream is in your heart for a reason.

You are deserving.

You are credible.

If you have this dream, you are deserving, you should be doing this.

And the last one, number 10.

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Maybe I should be grateful for what I have.

This is such bullshit.

I hate when people say that.

I made a whole episode on this about the attitude of gratitude and how you're gaslighting yourself when it's like, you should just be grateful for the things you have.

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Yeah, you should be grateful for the things you have.

And also, you're allowed to have bigger dreams.

You're allowed to want to go after these things.

You're allowed to be grateful for what you have and go after other things, and you shouldn't be using someone else's life to compare with your life.

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Like you shouldn't.

Oh well, you know, like I grew up hearing this.

It's like finish everything on your plate because there's children starving in Africa.

It's like that's their reality.

And me finishing the food on my plate has nothing to do with them.

It has absolutely nothing to do with them.

You know what it created?

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It created a terrible relationship with food for me.

Like like their reality has nothing to do with my reality.

So just because someone has more than me or someone has less than me, it shouldn't limit your dreams.

You should be grateful for what you have because gratitude is such a beautiful thing.

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But also, you're allowed to want more.

You're not selfish for wanting more.

You're not ungrateful for wanting more.

You can be grateful and still want more.

You can be realistic and be grateful and still want more.

It's really important to appreciate your current life, but don't gaslight yourself into believing your dreams are not for you just because you're, you know, thinking someone else has it worse than you.

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Like, that's so messed up.

That's so messed up.

You owe it to yourself to let these things go.

You do, you really do.

That's how you get to your dreams and I promised you 5 action items and this is another way you can get to your dreams.

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So a bonus 61.

Let all those shit, let them all go.

Let them all go.

Start hearing more often these alternative ways of looking at things, because these repeated beliefs are only what's keeping you small and you don't need them.

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They're limiting beliefs because you've heard them so often you don't need them.

Whatever's repeated to you becomes your reality.

And like they've been repeated to you by other well meaning people who believe these things too.

And that doesn't make them true.

Stick around here and I will tell you so many times how those things don't apply to you.

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And listen to music like like this artist I listen to, Abel Hart.

He has so much music that is so positive and uplifting.

Listen to things like that that show you what's possible.

And then eventually you'll start believing these other things are possible.

And that's one of my tips here.

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Follow people and fill like your feed with possibilities instead of limiting beliefs.

That's one of my tips #1 #2 connect with your future self like we already did so you can get clear on what your dreams are in your heart.

And also as a sub one to that, don't put pressure on yourself like it's OK if things aren't clear right now.

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Like I had this dream.

Like I said, I had this dream in my heart to be like Tony Robbins over 10 years ago.

And I held myself back.

And you know what?

Maybe that was my journey.

Maybe I was meant to.

Maybe I was meant to go through what I did so that I can help people even more because the last decade or so of my life, it's been kind of fucked up, you know?

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So maybe it's all happening exactly how it's supposed to.

So don't put pressure on yourself.

Connect with your future self.

Do these little meditations to connect with them.

The more you do it, the easier it becomes and the clearer the dialogue becomes.

It's the same thing with my inner sound check Phoenix Rising Sovereign Self.

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I've changed the name so many times.

My little process to connect with yourself and your intuition every single day.

You, The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

So connecting with your future self.

Because the more you connect with her and the more you know this has already happened, the easier it is to stay in that frequency.

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So #3 action step #3 figure out what beliefs and standards light you all the way the fuck up and start doing those things.

For me, it's like reminding myself to be kind to myself, to speak kind words to myself, showing U for my business, things like that.

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Like I said, my 3 check-ins a day, that's the kind of beliefs and standards that I, they light me all the way up.

Wearing really fun flowy clothes.

Like that's the kind of stuff that lights me up.

It's, it's everything in your life.

Are there things in your life that you're doing that don't let you up?

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How can you change them?

Like what can you do to make them light you up, you know?

And reminding yourself of these, This is why I check in with myself three times a day.

It's to remind myself of these because otherwise you're falling into old habits.

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You need to make these changes front of mind because if they're not, you fall into old habits.

Setting reminders on your phone to OU to remind you to think this way, to do these things and then do them.

Because you can remind yourself all you want, but you got to take action #4 give yourself grace when you fall back into old habits.

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This one's huge, Huge because it takes time to change your habits.

It really does.

It takes time and I'm not upset that I tried to do sound baths and they didn't work and now I'm pivoting.

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I was feeling low cause I was like why the hell didn't it work?

But you have to give yourself grace when you fall into these things, when you fall into these moments, because it's all happening.

I think it's all happening the way it's supposed to.

Like if I hadn't gotten into this dark moment, I wouldn't have come out this way on the other side.

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So giving yourself grace and like falling into old habits, like I fell out of my practice of doing things three times a day, giving yourself grace, finding your way back to that, and then you find your way back to it like even stronger.

So just don't be hard on yourself because you really should be your own best friend.

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Really.

That's this number four at the end of the day.

It's like, like I said, toot your own horn.

You gotta be your own champion, your own best friend.

Like would you really want to beat your best friend up verbally if they fell back into old habits?

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No, you would say it's OK.

No worries.

I'm here with you.

Let's go.

Like talk to yourself that way too #5 I already said this but it's definitely worth repeating.

Remember that motivation comes after action.

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You have the spark of the dream, and that's the lighter.

The fire doesn't stay lit just because you have a spark, just because you have a lighter in your hand.

You also need kindling and logs.

You need to fan the flame like there's work involved to get a big roaring fire.

That's you at the beginning.

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You have that spark, and maybe you have a piece of newspaper in your hand, but you also need to gather the little sticks.

You need to gather the logs.

You need to get this fire going.

You need to fan the flames like that's how you turn it into a roaring fire, into a huge burning passion like you do the work and when you know what you want, you just have to show U for yourself every day.

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And like I said, take one step at a time in that direction.

You have everything you need inside of you right now.

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You have this dream in your heart.

You have this vision in your heart.

You can do this.

Check the links in the show notes, see if anything lights you up, see if it resonates with you.

I'm here for you.

Hit that subscribe button.

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Let's be friends on socials.

All your dreams are possible.

They are possible for you.

You've already achieved them.

Thank you so much for hanging out with me and I will see you in the next one.

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Bye.